Have you ever said “yes”, when you knew you wanted to say “no” to an invitation or request? We’ve all been there. The guilt is so intense. Saying yes allows us to avoid feeling guilty. However, there is a BIG cost to denying our truth. Especially if that is a pattern of avoiding guilt, confrontation or standing up for yourself. Then you are digging yourself into a hole of lack of self-respect. The good news is you can start right now digging yourself out of this hole and into your wholeness.
Try this paradigm on to help you live in alignment with your true self and feel great about saying no… When you say “no” and that is the aligned truth, you are taking care of everyone including the person making the invitation or request. Think about it, it’s not in their highest good if you say “yes” but you’re heart isn’t in it. Right!
How To Say “No” Graciously
If you’re concerned about HOW can you say no and feel good about it, here are some ideas on how to graciously say no. Start by saying thank you. For example you could say, “Thank you so much for thinking of me. It means a lot to me, but at this time I need to decline.” You could stop there or go on to say, “It’s not feeling like the right fit (or thing for me) at the moment. If something changes, I’ll let you know.”
Your Feminine Power Boost Creates A Ripple Effect
When you practice saying “no” (when it’s aligned with your true self), you are essentially saying to your soul, I value you enough to honor what is best for you. You are building a great relationship with yourself and being a role model for others. This is a truly compassionate act your are doing for yourself.
By honoring yourself you are cultivating your inner feminine power. We need women to do this consistently. When we respect ourselves in this way others will respect us too.
