Dear Coach Laura,
I am in my mid-50s and really would like to meet a special man and develop a joyful loving lasting relationship with him. The trouble is I don’t seem to put myself out there and though I think I’m ready, there may be some fear in investing myself in that process. What advice can you give me for attracting my soul mate?
Dear Love Minded,
Most women (and men) long for the intimate soul connected relationship that they can enjoy for years to come. That is why I started WomenInJoy.com. Moreover, I know firsthand that it is possible no matter how much fear you have especially if you are the personal improvement type. Fear is a tricky emotion and we often misinterpret the message it has for us. The key is to honor this desire and feel your fear at the same time.
If fear is not coming up, it means you are comfortable and you are going to stay exactly where you are. So fear is GOOD. Fear can be your reminder of how important bringing in a wonderful man to share your life is to you. Plus fear is merely Forgetting Everything’s All Right. Thus, fear is an illusion. Think about it… if your worst fear came true, you would essentially be okay. Right? In fact, you may even be better because you are resilient and would to come through whatever happened. Also, you have resources (your personal development training), you have friends, family and there are always new people who show up as little angels in your life when you need it most. In other words, it’s time to empower yourself and stop buying into your fear and start accessing the power-full woman you are. The fact that you know there is fear is a good clue to take a look at the underlying beliefs you have about men and relationships.
You may want to ask yourself the following:
What belief(s) is your fear reflecting about who men are to you?
Do some work around uncovering your beliefs. Then, you can test them and alter them. Hypnosis can be a helpful tool at eliminating limiting beliefs and replacing them with ones that are in alignment with your truth and authentic power.
When you face your fear head on, it can transform and even disappear. So dust off your courageous nature and center yourself in your power. Be clear on your intention and hold on for a great ride. Trust the process and your innate feminine wisdom.
Wishing you every JOY,