How to Be Positive in a Non-Supportive Environment

Recently I was asked: What are your most successful methods for maintaining a high positive vibration when you’re in an environment that doesn’t support that?

If you’ve been in a negative environment for a while (and you’re an adult)…

If you’ve been in the muck for a while, ask yourself, “Why are you in that kind of environment in the first place?” What are you “getting” out of being there? Really think about it. Are you able to avoid facing something or someone else. Are you keeping yourself from failing at changing it. Or are you proving yourself right about something or someone else wrong. Once you’ve identified what it is you are getting out of being there, ask yourself “Are you willing to give that up?” If not, well, congrats on being honest with yourself and know that this situation is of your choosing. Accept you want to be there. No matter how many affirmations, chants, or chord cuttings you do, you are committed to keeping that situation in place.  Honesty with yourself is important. Though intrinsically it can’t harm you if you do the positive rituals if you use them as “evidence” that it doesn’t work, then you are creating justifications to prove yourself “right.” However, you can’t put the blame on a tool. It would be like looking at a hammer and saying… work and when the nail is still on the table next to the hammer, you say the hammer didn’t work. You gotta work it baby.

If you are willing to give it up. Go for it! It may sound easier than it is to do it. So take it one step at a time. Acknowlege what you got/get out of enduring an unsupportive environment and that you no longer want that. Affirm what you do want and why you are letting it go. Your affirmation can be I now let go of needing/wanting

Tools for Staying Positive in an Unsupportive Environment

If you’ve found yourself in that less than supportive enviroment rather recently and this environment is relatively unfamiliar to you, you may want to break out the tools that either you’ve found helpful in the past. The “cure” starts with recognizing the source of what allowed this environment to be so in your life. Did something happen in your confidence, or what you believe? Take some time to talk it out or journal it out or contemplate in meditation on why now, and for what purpose might this serve. Don’t push for an answer. The more clear the question you ask while contemplating this, the better connected to the positive you will stay.

If you need help getting clear, you may want to do some hypnosis, speak with a licensed counselor, and/or continue to allow space to receive insights.

The process of staying positive may take some extra support depending on how deeply you are impacted. So you may consider additional actions that I found in the discussion thread that I’ve summarized here:


Sherryl Lin recommended: I set the energy in place before I go into a potentially low vibe environment. Imagine a loving energy field enveloping the place and people who are there.
Taking mini breaks, even if it means going to the rest room, to breathe and recenter myself. Staying curious keeps me out of judgment. I ask questions of the other person without an agenda of fixing them. Take care of myself and don’t have expectations.

Cindy recommends: I visually place a light pink, gel like protection all over my skin top, bottom, left, and right as I say that “whats mind is mine, what’s there’s is there’s” and any other persons energy that tries to come in bounces off, not coming in.Then I mentally choose to raise the vibration by simply being my true self. 💜

Kim recommend:  Things grounding my energy; raising my vibration even higher and seeing it expanded beyond me; seeing myself surrounded by a white bubble that only filters in other high vibration energy; setting positive intentions for encounters with people ahead of time; self reiki and sending reiki to future events; etc –

Change Your Physcial Environment to Be Supportive

David shared: I change my immediate environment as much as I can… make my personal space as beautiful as possible inside me and what I see. I put quotes that remind me, I read testimonials and appreciation letters I’ve received, speak about my vision, work on my vision and I look to move ASAP!

Listen to and Generate Positive Stories

George added:  I tell stories. I tell long, drawn out, beautiful stories of Gratitude. Rather than a list, I try to go on and on and on about one or two things or experiences that felt right, until it raisesy vibration. It always does, just like the negative stories I elaborate on always lower it.

Positive Affirmationsaffirmation quote

What you say to yourself matters. Are you saying positive things to yourself? Positive affirmations are self-hypnosis. And that works best when you repeat them over and over. Then you’ll find yourself being more positive overall. What voice do you choose to listen to in your head? Usually the louder one. So you may have to practice making that the more positive voice.

If you have a deck of Feminine Power Cards, you may want to sort the deck by the affirmations (cards with smiley faces on the blue side). Then pick a card a day and practice that affirmation.

Use Essential Oils

Your sense of smell is powerful. There are some tried and true essential oils that are uplifting and are fabulously supportive tools. Generally citrus or specific essential oil blends made for emotional support will be most useful. Some favorites include Wild Orange, Lemon, and Motivate Encouraging blend. Also if you need some calming energy to help with sleep and undo stress, lavender is a beautiful option. Diffusing these in your office, home, or bedroom or simply applying them with a carrier oil like coconut oil on your wrists or palms and smelling them, can transform your energy and/or your mood from low to high.

Pose Questions

Pay attention to your body as you ask yourself questions. The first part of asking questions is to make sure you’re asking the best questions that will bring you closest to your answers. You cannot get the answer unless you ask questions. So keep on asking and checking in about the question. Maureen offered these

  • What else is possible here?
  • What feelings or sensations am I having that don’t even belong to me? Let them go with consciousness and transmutation.
  • What can I choose here?

Keep going with your own. Here are a few more that may help you come up with your own

  • What is the purpose of my being in this situation?
  • Is there something I’m supposed to see?
  • What do I really want?
  • Am I supposed to learn about _____?
  • How can I best help myself get to a more positive state?
  • What beliefs am I manifesting?

Share Your Truth in a Safe Way with Safe People

Find someone to talk to. If you need to vent, vent to a safe friend/partner and let them know what you are doing and that you don’t need them to solve your problem. Unless you want advice. If you want to share your truth with someone involved in creating the negative situation, make sure you are doing this from a neutral and unattached place. Be VERY clear on what you want them to do. If you have a request, make it of them. If you are trying to blame, judge or shame them, DON’T. This will not get you anywhere but more agitated or righteous. But it won’t heal the situation.

Vision Boards & SoulCollage®

If you aren’t having luck thinking, writing or talking this out, try visuals. SoulCollage® is a method of creating small collages based upon an intuitive process that is typically guided by a facilitator. Over time you’ll develop a deck of personal wisdom collages that are guides for the various stages and phases you may find yourself going through. This process is one of accessing your inner guidance system in a subtle yet extremely beneficial way.

Spiritual Practices, Energy Work, and Shamans

There are tons of people out there with various modalities, rituals and energy healing techniques. Be sure to vet them first and make sure you’re comfortable with them. If not, honor your feelings and make informed choices. This will develop your own sense of self and grow your connection to your intuition.


The named suggestions shared above, were originally shared in this Facebook post.