How To Get Confidence

Powerful Women Take Responsibility and Get Confidence

how to get confidenceAs a woman, who you are naturally is full of power so it is amazingly simple to get confidence. Let me call attention to who you are and why you can be confident… We have the ability to bring life into the world. I would call that magical.  Did you know that you can make someone’s day with a smile or a caring gesture? Of course you do.  

Women have been the guiding consciousness of society for centuries. The thing is, however, many of us forget how power-full we are and slip into feeling less than, taken advantage of, or never seem to get the respect we deserve. What if the reason these things are happening is because we simply forgot who we are.  

Remembering that you are powerful means taking responsibility for having what you want in life. Whoops, I said it… the R word. Yes, imagine living from this paradigm: You can have anything you say you want if you’re willing to make the decisions that will ensure you get it. Sounds easy right? With enough practice it will become a habit. 

Three Steps to Gaining Confidence and Personal Power

Step 1: Be honest. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” Name a feeling that doesn’t involve another causing it. For example, are you feeling tired, lonely, sad, upset, angry, guilty, ashamed, frustrated, etc. It is best to use words do not imply blame. When you blame someone else you don’t feel powerful. In fact, blame gives your power away to someone else and leaves you stuck. Instead, own your feelings and acknowledge them to yourself.

Step 2: Ask yourself, “What do I really want to feel?” Typically it is to feel loved, to have friends who celebrate you, etc. Answer it with the underlying essence of the feeling you want to experience. 

Step 3: Ask yourself, “How can I provide that for myself? It may mean ending a friendship, speaking less to a family member, asking for a hug, taking a bath, doing something special for yourself, or simply giving yourself some time off. Whatever is authentically in your highest good for you to do, go for it. 

 

If you go through this process over and over, you will begin to notice something happening over time. People don’t upset you as much. Those who used to take advantage of you disappear or change their attitude. Most of all you feel great. You generate joy because you decide to!

Feminine Energy Defined and Beyond

Feminine Energy Defined and Beyond

Feminine energy is our heart energy! Learn why Laura helps women explore their feminine and understand the magnanimous power they innately have. Listen to this recent interview with Inez Bracey about the Feminine Power Cards and how women can have juicier relationships and more joy in their lives. If you want your dreams to come true,  tap into the power of the feminine and learn who you are authentically. 

Listen tointernet radio with Inez Bracy Living Smart Well on Blog Talk Radio

 

How to Recover from a Big Fight.

Dear Coach Laura,

My significant other and I had a really big fight recently. I didn’t like the way I behaved and I know that triggered him. I am afraid this may happen again. Can you give me some advice on how to prevent reacting so badly?

Emotional One

Dear Emotional One,

You have summarized the classic behavior that indicates, “What you are fighting about is not what you are fighting about.” Check in with yourself. What is the issue at hand? If you were arguing about something small (that you know can come up again) chances are there is a deeper issue. The key to changing the pattern is identifying what is really going on. In order to identify what is really going on, you must stay engaged in the issue without being entrenched in it. Here are the basic steps. I recommend getting professional help with them if your issue comes up repeatedly.

Step 1: Avoid making your point over and over. Let go of having to be right. Focus on what you really want. That is, to understand what is the underlying emotional triggers and create harmony within. You may want to look to what is frustrating to you about your OWN life. Are you projecting it on the relationship? If so, take ownership of that fact. That is the gift of surrendering being right.

Step 2: Be willing to be uncomfortable. Start asking yourself questions. What am I feeling? What do I want to be feeling? What do I need to really feel better?

Step 3: Allow yourself to be open to other possibilities you otherwise wouldn’t see about the situation. Think about his point of view. Contemplate it as a possibility instead of rigidly defending your own point of view.

Step 4: Commit to a win-win solution. It can only be a solution for you if it’s a solution for him too. You need to play on the same side. That is, inside your loving relationship.

In his book, Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch encourages readers to create inter-dependent relationships. If you are getting stuck in a pattern, chances are you are in a codependent pattern. Look to take more responsibility for your stuff.

Yours In Joy.

Coach Laura

Women Living Consciously

Inspiring Women Living Consciously

Conscious living is something to which you can aspire, awaken, and put into practice–no matter whether you’ve chosen it or it has chosen you; it can become a powerful way of life!

Read impassioned stories in this book by forty-seven women who’ve enriched and re-directed their lives to transform into a new way of being. Each author has experienced a major shift in consciousness either through outside-inflicted circumstances or by being inwardly called toward self-realized transformation. No matter the cause, the actions and practices they followed led each of them to a more integrated sense of wholeness and joyfulness of spirit which continues as they move through life.

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Living on Purpose, with Passion, Empowered

In this book, You’ll Discover these Timeless Truths and Valuable Lessons:

  •  Rid yourself of the “disease to please” once and for all
  •  Recognize the diamond in the rough and polish it
  •  Know that your dreams have no limits–empower yourself
  •  Build your business to match your vision, no matter the economy
  •  Survivor and victim are two sides of the same coin–you choose
  •  Childhood trauma doesn’t equal a traumatized adult
  •  Labels are not death sentences, they’re just words
  •  How to live an authentic life in alignment with your highest values
  •  Spirit exists in every experience, sometimes you just need faith
  •  Release the darkness of the past and open up to your bright future
  •  Living in the moment is all you really have
  •  Love is the greatest elixir for all ills–physical, emotional and spiritual
  •  Fear is all in your head; living from your heart is the only way to eliminate it
  •  Maintain eternal connections with loved ones for greater peace

This anthology book celebrates the strength and beauty that all women possess. It provides a resource, a sounding board and a path for you to follow. And mostly, it speaks the truth about surviving and thriving through uncertainty, growth and sometimes seemingly impossible circumstances.

Buy the book Women Living Consciously and receive more than 50 bonus gifts from like-minded joint venture partners.

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How does one know if they are on the right life path?

How do you know if you are on the right life path?

 

Well, I believe the evidence is in what someone is experiencing. If your experiencing what you want… joy, love, passion, connection, flow, peace, inner strength, etc. Then you’re on the right path. If you’re not experiencing what you want, I suggest a journey inward. Changing outward circumstances won’t do any good until you understand what message your soul has for you.

Try this exercise:

  1. Close your eyes and take a few slow and full breaths.
  2. Once you feel a sense of calm, imagine yourself in your favorite most inspiring place
  3. Simply ask your mind to take you on the right path for you
  4. Imagine yourself moving along the path, feeling energized, excited and aware
  5. Let yourself know you are on the right path, and the right people, right opportunities are here for you.
  6. Ask yourself: “Are you willing to be open and move forward on this perfect path for your highest good?” If the answer is yes, breath in and acknowledge your willingness. If the answer is no, ask yourself, “What do I need to be open to moving forward on the path for my highest good?”
  7. Simply let yourself feel the energy of the perfect path for you. You don’t need details. You simply open your eyes. Trust that you’ve set in motion the perfect positive path for you.

 To receive more guidance check out these tools: http://www.womeninjoy.com/wisdom-tools/

 

Peacefully Resolve Conflicts in Relationships

Peacefully Resolve Conflicts in Relationships

My husband said for the first couple of years we were together that things were going so well in our relationship that he was waiting for “the other shoe to drop” when we would have a big fight. I wasn’t surprised that it never happened. Mind you, we have areas of disagreement but they never become big issues.

As a student and coach of communications and relationship development, I am continually learning and practicing skills to enhance relationships. At one point my husband had an aha moment. He said, “I now understand why we are not going to have that big fight.” Below are some points he mentioned that I also believe are the some key elements of peacefully resolving conflicts in relationships.

1. Each partner takes responsibility for his/her feelings and his/her part in the situation. It is imperative that each partner acknowledge and reflect upon his/her own feelings and reactions to things.

2. Have a commitment/intention to put love in the space of your relationship. I will often ask myself something like, “How can I be loving to myself and my partner?” It is especially important to ask this question when you don’t feel like it.

3. Refrain from holding onto expectations of your partner behaving a certain way in order to “make” you happy. The minute you expect him/her to behave a certain way so you can feel better, you’re trapped in a no-win situation. You must make yourself happy and then be in relationship. Expectations will trap your partner into “having” to be a certain way and will lead to resentment on his/her part or disappointment on yours.

4. No assumptions. Whatever you do, don’t assume he/she did something on purpose to hurt you. Instead, give him/her the benefit of the doubt and then seek to verify what the case is. Negative assumptions is like poison to a relationship.

5. Speak the truth about yourself. Use “I feel…” and stick to feelings (not words that imply he/she did something to cause this feeling). For example, feeling words include: sad, angry, depressed, insecure, confused, afraid, jealous, sick, frisky, elated. Words that implicate your partner (that you won’t want to use) include: rejected, pushed, conned, judged. Avoid using the word “you” when expressing your feelings. Stick to “I.”

6. Never lash out. Say nothing instead. And contemplate what you are feeling. Lashing out is merely avoiding facing the truth about what you are feeling.

These take practice. I will admit I am not perfect. What is key for me is staying conscious to these principles and apologizing quickly if I’ve stepped over the line. Thus, I highly recommend keeping them present in your life and practicing them. It will make all the difference.

These principles and many more are incorporated into the Feminine Power Cards which are daily reminders and practices for living in feminine energy and creating juicy harmonious soul-connected relationships.

Wishing you joy-filled connections.

Coach Laura

Planet Success Strategies – What Are Yours?

There are so many things we have taken for granted with the many conveniences of our modern life. Running water, plastic wrappings and containers, our clothing, electronics and fast food. We have come accustomed to throwing away many of these items. We have become a disposable society. The problem is, our landfills are filling up, we are running out of clean potable water and the animals we cohabitate the earth with are dying because of our habits. What can we do?

What if each of us, create one new habit every so often that would care for our planet. Ask yourself, what can I reuse, recycle or regift? Over the last few years, I was encouraged by my husband to start taking canvas bags to the grocery store. Numerous times I left the bags in the trunk of the car. But I didn’t give up. There were times when I left the bags in the trunk and remembered when shopping. So I just went back out to the car and retrieved the bag or I hand carried items out. Over time, I started remembering the bags more and more. My next habit is to use less water.

Please comment here and share what you’re doing for the planet. What tips do you have for others? Why are you passionate about this?

I’m so glad we’re working together on this.
Warm Regards,
Coach Laura

Personal Success Strategies – Beyond Integrity

Last week I was sent an email from my Facebook friend Marjorie where she asked what my Personal Success strategies are. What came to mind was revealing and may be somewhat contrary to what others have recommended. Please let me know what you think as you read this.

You’ve heard that integrity is important. I think so too. I used to think that having integrity, in other words, keeping my commitments and having things in life completed, was the key to having everything I wanted in life. Indeed life works and business flows when I keep my commitments. And I do so as a matter of practice. I do regularly operate by placing integrity in every area of my life as critical. Without integrity things fall apart. In the world of construction a building must have structural integrity otherwise it will fall apart. Likewise, this principle operates the same way in our lives.

Yes, integrity is powerful in and of itself. Here’s the kicker for me. In addition to integrity, I know that to truly have a life that feeds my soul, I must know myself deeply, be willing to acknowledge and honor my feelings and most importantly be honest about it. Furthermore, I must make decisions and commitments in alignment with my authentic truth.

When I realized the significance of my authenticity to my health and happiness, my whole world shifted. I was able to ease up on the inner critic within me and start listening to the gentler voice of my true feelings and desires. Then I could have integrity serve my authenticity. For example, if I know myself and that museums are exhausting for me and someone asks me to go, I know if I allot more than 2 hours for the visit, I will be grouchy and unhappy. So now I agree to go to exhibits that I know will take less than two hours to go through and ideally my companion doesn’t want to spend more than an hour. If he/she does, then I will let them know it’s not the right event for me to attend. This may sound like a minor thing to you. You may be saying, “Why not just go and sacrifice yourself so as not to hurt the others’ feelings?” I used to do this, but truly I was bummed out by the end of the day and no one was really happy to be there as a result. I guarantee you this, if you try to hide or deny your feelings it will come out some other way that won’t be positive.  Instead, when I am true to myself, I don’t wind up being in a bad mood anymore with the people I care about. They are happy too. On top of that there would then be time to do something I might enjoy that I could suggest.

Authenticity is not an excuse for lack of integrity by any means. Rather it’s a way to enrich and enjoy your life more fully.  I recommend knowing oneself deeply and making sure your commitments are in alignment. Though it sounds easy, I invite you to examine your life and the times you get cranky or are in a joy-less state and ask yourself, “What is it that I need that I’m not getting in this moment? and What did I do that was not authentic that may have gotten me here?” Be sure not to beat yourself up. This is a learning process and takes practice.

The Feminine Power Cards have a certain number of cards dedicated to principles centered around making conscious choices. These cards remind you to become an objective observer (without judgment) of your life and give up placing judgment on yourself. It is then when you are truly open to what is really going on inside and you have an extraordinary gateway  to new awarenesses, more tolerance of others while not compromising oneself. Here are a few of the cards that invite us to make these conscious choices.

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Each of these cards is your invitation to explore your authentic feminine nature. The deck contains suggested practices to implement each of these principles. For now I leave you with some questions to use as you contemplate how these principles can be used in your life:

  1. Where are you inconsistencies between what you say and what you do?
  2. Are you willing to say “no” to someone who asks you to do something and put yourself first instead?
  3. What are you feeling?

Wishing you every JOY,

Coach Laura

How the Feminine Influences World Leaders

On January 18, 2009, two days before the inauguration, a letter from President Obama to his daughters was published in Parade Magazine. What struck me about his letter was his admission that the birth of his two daughters changed his outlook on life, made him a better man and gave his life greater purpose.

He said, “When I was a young man, I thought life was all about me—about how I’d make my way in the world, become successful, and get the things I want. But then the two of you came into my world with all your curiosity and mischief and those smiles that never fail to fill my heart and light up my day. And suddenly, all my big plans for myself didn’t seem so important anymore. I soon found that the greatest joy in my life was the joy I saw in yours. And I realized that my own life wouldn’t count for much unless I was able to ensure that you had every opportunity for happiness and fulfillment in yours. In the end, girls, that’s why I ran for President: because of what I want for you and for every child in this nation. “

This is the power of the feminine. All his daughters had to do was be present. They were born and this man had a new outlook and vision for the world. Now he is President and making change for a better world.

Let this be a reminder for women everywhere. It’s not what we do. It’s who we are… women. Inherently power-full. Women, take on your joy as innocently as Sasha and Malia Obama. Let go of your anger, release your stress, allow your authentic feminine essence shine and allow the shift to occur.

Wishing you every JOY.

Coach Laura

PS: Feb 2, 2009 we launched the Feminine Power Movement to inspire women to tap into their authentic feminine essence. Check out this little video with more info about the Feminine Power Movement.

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