In this Issue
Notes
from Coach Laura
 It's June and it's
a great time for pampering. When was the last time you took some
time to nurture yourself? If it's been a while and your wondering
why you don't feel in the flow, you may be in need of some good old
fashion time for yourself. I like to call it "Me Time." This is
critical to your joy.
This month in order to
get in my "Me Time" I am taking a two week vacation. I have
booked my husband and I at 5-star hotels in a very sacred location.
We leave tomorrow, so this will be a short newsletter and I hope
you'll join me and our growing Women In Joy group at the end of the
month for our gathering. Since I will be fresh back from a very
spiritual place, I will have some special treats and processes for
us to practice creating sacred space with ceremony and
ritual.
Upcoming Women's
Gathering
June 28. 6:30 pm
Last month we had a very
creative time exploring our uniqueness and connecting with our
creativity. Join us this month for an evening of: Creating
Sacred Space with Ceremony and Ritual
You will learn how to
slow down just enough to experience the magic and mystery of our
world with some simple processes and tools.
Come and connect and
create magic with us.
Date: Wednesday, June 28, 2006
Time: 6:30 pm -9:30 pm
Place: La Mesa
RSVP for
registration and address ($20)
Invite your girlfriends.
Register now.
For more info Contact: Laura at
619-293-3353 or
Laura@CoachLBR.com
Ask Coach Laura Blog - Q&A
QUESTION:
I just broke up with a guy because he
wanted to date other women. So when I read last month there was a
woman dating multiple men I was shocked. I really don't know how to
do that. I don't understand being vulnerable, intimate and connected
...with more than one heart at a time. He went on his second date
with another woman last night and I decided to let him go and do his
thing (heart wise that is). It was very painful. I am choosing to
stop seeing him. Do you think I am insecure? He says he is not ready
for anything serious for a while and I am. He also says he thinks we
have potential. I'm confused.
ANSWER:
Dear Confused, First of all, good work with staying true to your
values. If you know that you are connected to this man and know you
want to get serious with him and he is not willing to give you the
monogamous relationship you desire, then letting him go is a very
courageous and powerful thing to do for yourself.
Here’s the deal (for me) about dating multiple men at the same
time. I don’t get physically intimate (beyond kissing and light
petting) with any of them. It allows me to keep perspective. The
biggest mistake I think women make when dating is opening their
heart to a man too soon. They want to dive right in and they loose
the perspective to determine if he is really appropriate for her.
In the meanwhile, dating multiple men does mean he maintains the
freedom to date others as well. This is ok –trust me. And by the
way, when a woman opens her body to a man, most likely her heart has
opened to him as well and she is then bonded alchemically to that
man. That’s a whole other topic.
The
purpose of dating multiple men is to keep perspective and not dive
in too soon (especially good if the guy isn’t looking for a long
term deal – you can weed him out sooner without much heart break). I
always felt that I needed to get to know a man (mostly by his
watching his actions over time) to determine if I could trust him
with my heart. So in addition to spending time and asking him a
variety questions, I was paying attention to the subtle feelings in
my body when things would happen while dating. Over time I grew to
know what my requirements were from the subtle feelings to the
values we needed to share (another benefit of dating multiple men).
If there wasn’t alignment or I was unclear about the alignment, I
kept to the light dating status. Normally that would last about 2
months or less. Then if someone appeared where green lights all
checked out within me, I could move forward into a more serious,
monogamous relationship phase. One of the green lights needed to be
him wanting a long term committed relationship. The most important
thing I was doing was honoring my heart because I knew I wanted a
sacred partnership and wasn’t going to compromise myself in the
process.
Keeping perspective is the key. Staying in touch with making
yourself happy with whoever you’re with and always with yourself.
If women could only focus on being happy and enjoying the freedom of
dating while getting to know men and determining whom would be the
best match, then I believe we are taking on our power. Your job is
to find your joy, know what brings you joy and go and create it.
Then when the man who is Mr. Right comes along he will know it
(maybe before you) and will help you figure that out and be patient
while you do.
Wishing you every joy,
Coach Laura
If you have a question, you'd like
Coach Laura's input on, please e-mail
Laura@CoachLBR.com.
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JUNE
2006 GATHERING
Create Sacred Space with Ceremony & Ritual
June 28
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Contact:
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or (619) 293-3353
AUGUST 2006 EVENT
COMING TO LOS ANGELES
in August... My Mentor, Anne Hancock, is running her course
entitled. UNDERSTANDING MEN
for
details click here
Inspirational Thought
"Perfect is
not what you try to be, it's who you already are."
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